Kim Corle is an author, speaker and coach who blends humor and insight to help others manage toxic people, challenging situations, and personal stress.
Life can be messy, and we can’t control other people. It’s our job to clean ourselves up, find and focus on the good, and carry on. Kim supports anyone wanting to learn how to manage their emotions, untangle from the toxic and take back their power – especially those struggling to overcome verbal and emotional abuse or intimidation.
Kim is a compassionate, insightful listener who has the experience, skill and desire to help those in need of reflection, validation, support and someone to understand the strife that toxic people and situations create.
She is not just a theorist, she herself is a survivor who knows how it feels when there seems to be nowhere to turn and no answer to the question, ‘what am I going to do?’ Her sincerity, wisdom and will shine through during your first conversation. She gets it.
As a victim of verbal and emotional abuse I was desperate to figure out what was happening to me. When I realized I was in a cycle of behavior that was ebbing my self-esteem away, I decided that as scary as it was, I would get help. I went to therapy, read every book I could find, journaled, prayed and cried. I was at my wits end, unable to understand why things were so bad and why I was so desolate. I was convinced that if I loved more, was a better ‘me’ and did what was asked of me, things would change. I thought I could love my abusers out of this destruction. I saw their good and believed in them. And then I figured it out. If I changed, those in my life who were emotionally and verbally abusing me would have to change. Luckily, I was able to stop things before things were physical, but it was close. It was scary, hard and tricky. But I learned and so can you.
Abusers aren’t just men and they aren’t just spouses. They can be family members, coworkers, wives or friends. I have a deep sense of compassion and sadness for abusers, because as we know, hurt people, hurt people. Some are evil, yet many are not. But that is their journey and their path to walk, not yours. FACT: You will not be able to love them out of this, reason them out of this, plead, cry, buy, maneuver, accomodate (or anything else) them out of this. IF that was the case, you wouldn’t be here – it’s not about keeping them happy, it’s about standing up and owning your power. My hope is that some of these tools will help you navigate toxic storms. Mostly, I want you to know that you are valuable and worthy – AND – you aren’t alone, even though you feel no one understands, I get it. I’ve been there and want to help you.
My experience includes victims of domestic abuse as well as verbal and emotional, the steps of moving forward apply to all – there is no need to suffer. Nose around and find what you need, I regularly update the site and add in resources, words that help and articles. And sign up for my periodic updates, hopefully they will give you some comfort. Hugs.
Getting to know me…
- I’m back living in my birth state of Florida and have concluded that I have always had sand in my shoes:)
- I will always live with animals. At one point, I had the makings of an Arc – two of everything, dogs, cats, tanks of fish, and hermit crabs.
- My first business was a cleaning company at the age of 15. I discovered PineSol and still think it’s the Cadillac of cleaners.
- Mary Tyler Moore was my first hero.
- Red wine rules. Seriously, I love it.
- I met the love of my life at 40. Love happens.
- I could eat sushi for breakfast and I snack on seaweed.
- I’ve raised the neatest people I know, I don’t know how I pulled the lucky card on kids and stepkids, but I did.
- Hardshell crabs are one of nature’s gifts, they create an instant party and are damn fine food.
- I’ve never met a stranger, I think we are all connected and always have been.
My mission is to mentor and support victims of abuse (both men and women) as they navigate stormy seas and learn how to take back their power, reduce toxic encounters and live a life free from abuse and control.
What others say….
I honestly do not know where I would be today if it were not for Kim….her experience, her coaching, her mentorship, her knowledge on how to deal with those who emotionally and verbally abuse, and her friendship…they are second to none! And, she really cares! I had been married for 16 years to a man who had been emotionally and verbally abusing me. For most of my marriage, I did not even realize that this was happening. I thought it was me and that we just had to work on our marriage. I finally got the courage to file for divorce. I then found myself in a situation where I had to deal with someone who was totally “off the wall” and now was full of anger that I followed through with something that I had been threatening for most of our marriage. That is when I received an article from my sister about how to deal with emotionally and verbally abusive people. The author was Kim Roman Corle. The article hit home and I just had to speak with her. So, I sent her an email. She responded very quickly and we set up a phone call. Right from the start we connected – Kim knew exactly what I was dealing with (as she has experienced it) and she had some extremely helpful ways of dealing with these types of people. Since then, she has been my coach, my mentor, my friend for the past 2 and half years. She has helped me manage and navigate through a very toxic relationship, a messy divorce while also helping me maintain calmness in my home and be there for my 3 kids, protecting them and bettering my relationship with them. Most importantly, she has taught me how to take back my power and to get my life back! There are no words to describe the gratitude I feel towards her. I am now in a much better place and, honestly, I do not think I would be here if it were not for her. I am not 100% out of the woods yet, but I am moving up the mountain. Kim has given me the tools I need to stay in charge, move on and better my life. I truly feel she was the answer to my prayers!…….L.G.